Confidently, Confident

You can be confident and still suck. Take me for example: I can not sing or carry a tune even if my life depended on it, but that does not stop me from singing. 

I enjoy performing. It is all that I ever want or care to do. In the world of entertainment there is a term called “triple-threat”. This means a person excels at all three major skills as an entertainer: Acting, dancing, and singing. Thanks to a number of drama courses, The Debbie Allen Dance Academy/Steps on Broadway, and The Upright Citizens Brigade Theatre, I’ve nailed down the first two skills to the point where, given the right opportunity, I can certainly do it professionally. 

One of the classes I took at UCB Theatre was a character developing class. My personal experience lead me to create a character that was a disgruntled Apple Store Specialist. Rather than going postal on Apple customers, I decided to make the character burst out in a song. Dear god was I terrible. I could barely get through the entire song. I can play the guitar moderately well, however that day it was like my crappy singing ability played a mean prank on my hands and suddenly I was a 5 year old attempting to pick my scales on each guitar string. 

I have never played my guitar on stage at Madison Square Garden, but back before I lost my religion, I used to play with the church band. Strumming in front of people has never really been a big deal for me, until having to sing, by my self, in a room of about 11 people. This is the moment when I realized just how important it is to be confident. 

My lack of self-confidence in regard to singing, completely shut down my ability to do anything else. To get over my fear of singing in front of people, I enrolled into a Musical Improv class at UCB. This is performing a completely improvised musical in a live show. Huge leap right?! 

Most of the class consisted of legit singers who were talented enough to perform on Broadway and then there was those of us who, well.... We probably wont be singing in a Broadway musical anytime soon. The class was small, so I got plenty of opportunities sing terribly funny songs. Very quickly I stopped worrying if I was singing in the same key as the accompanist and focused my attention on collaborating with my team. I had so much fun that I enrolled in the next level musical improv class. A theater in New York called The Magnet, has a weekly mixer where you add your name to a list and wait to be called on to the stage to either sing with a random group of people or perform a scene and sing a duet with one random person. I got chosen perform a duet  with a very funny guy. I honestly believe we had one of the best duets of the night. 

Long story short.... I still can not sing! However, I am no longer afraid to sing. Maybe I have gotten a tad bit better, but what I have learned is that as long as I sing with confidence and believe the words coming out of my mouth, no one seems to mind or notice if I am in the wrong key. 

No matter what you are trying to accomplish in life, you must believe in yourself. It makes a world of difference. You can be a Kanye West confident or a Dalai Lama confident. Meaning, you can be a confident jerk or a humble confident. Humility is always the best way to go. 

Quick Tips: 

Repetition: Create a habit of continuously taking risks and doing the very thing that causes fear within. 

Smile: Science has proven that smiling releases endorphins in your body which act as natural pain killers and reduces stress. Along with serotonin, which serves as an anti-depressant.

Good posture: "Your brain is constantly checking in with the rest of your body to find out how you're feeling. When your posture is erect, the message it gets is: I feel good about myself." Kelly McGonigal, PhD, a health psychologist at Stanford University.