9 Reasons Why You're Not Happy

1. You wait for things to happen, rather than make things happen. 

We all know the saying "Good things come to those who wait."  Whoever came up with this probably did not mean that if you sit around long enough, an opportunity will eventually reveal its self to you. Quite the opposite actually. Good things come to those who work hard and work smart, and never give up (a.k.a patience). It is very important that you put forth the right amount of effort for the things you want in life.


2. You spend your week in an unfulfilling job.

If you are at work constantly daydreaming of the things you'd rather be doing, then it's probably time are a change. The longer you stay in this situation, the more discontent you will become in life. Find a job that makes you happy. You should not have to suffer through 40 hours of unwanted work. 


3. You live paycheck to paycheck.

This worse when you have a family to provide for. So much worry, precise planning, and usually sacrificing things human beings should never have to sacrifice is involved in living paycheck to paycheck. I always gave up food so that I could pay my bills. This time in my life was certainly no picnic (pun intended). We have to do what we can to get by. The help is out there and can be extremely hard to find. Which is why it is important to stay positive and not give up. 


4. You spend too much time on Facebook. 

A study conducted at the University of Michigan revealed that the use of Facebook leads to a decline in overall gratification in life and daily happiness.

On the surface, Facebook provides an invaluable resource for fulfilling the basic human need for social connection. But rather than enhance well-being, we found that Facebook use predicts the opposite result - it undermines it.
— Dr. Ethan Kross

5. You don't respect yourself.

Maybe you are overweight, maybe you are promiscuous, or maybe you drink yourself into oblivion. Whatever your vise may be, it all leads to having extremely low self worth. I struggle in this area a lot. Staying creative and going to the gym typically pulls me out of this state. I don't go to the gym to stay physically fit, I go to stay mentally fit. 


6. Family is pressuring you to do something you don't want to do.

Whose life are you living? Your family's ideals for you does not align with your personal ideals but you respect and love these people and you want them to be proud of you. I have never personally dealt with this and if I ever do, I will more than likely move as far away from my family as possible. It's easier to be influenced by people physically present in your life. So, sometimes a separation is needed. Baby birds can not learn to fly if they do not leave their nest.


7. Your friends suck. 

Most friends probably do not mean to be discouraging or even realize that they are. People unknowingly project their own insecurities to those closest to them. If this is happening, it is important to be aware of it and assertively and lovingly remind your friends that you need their support, not their fears.


8. Your religion is failing you. 

Ugh, dear GOD! When I was a kid, I read the bible every night and recited scriptures as I prayed for my grandmother to overcome her illness. I prayed for her leg not to be amputated and that she lived long enough to witness someone in the family finally find success. She lost her leg and later died when I was 14 years old. Strike one! Sex, drugs, and alcohol are things I was exposed to by the very same people who held my hand during bible study prayer. Strike two! I was constantly being led to feel an overwhelming sense of guilt. I didn't like feeling like a sinner. After all, God made me this way, right? I shouldn't feel as though I committed the biggest act of treason just because as a 22 year old, I spent my Saturday night at Hotel Cafe and drank two cans of Boddingtons (English Beer), ate a plate of overpriced but tasty salad, while watching Greg Laswell jam on his keyboard. However,  the next day the church pastor certainly made me feel like I did something worth being damned to hell for. STRIKE THREE! And so I lost my religion. I don't really have a resolution for this type of situation. I only know that religion that is being practiced fallaciously or taught incorrectly can lead so some serious unhappiness. 


9. You're reading this article.

Or maybe you just like reading. Either way, I hope you find the happiness that you deserve.